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News from the Nest: Developing personalities, girly-girl or tomboy?

My daughter is almost 2 years old, and we are starting to see her personality really come alive. However, I can't quite figure out if she will be a girly-girl who likes dolls, dresses and makeup, or a tomboy who is into sports, trucks and digging in the dirt.

I'm not going to lie: I kind of want a little princess. I, myself, was a mix of the two personalities, but leaned more towards a tomboy. I think I was in my 20s before I ever wore a piece of clothing that was pink. I was an athlete, planned on being an engineer and even played the trombone in band. Can't get much less "girly" than that.

So when I put a dress on my daughter and her face lights up, mine does too. She sways back and forth so the dress twirls. We both smile and life is good.

My husband, on the other hand, wants her to be his little tomboy. She runs around our house wearing her big brother's tennis shoes and baseball cap, which is so big she has to tilt her head way up so she can see from under the brim. Daddy and big brother have her practicing her baseball swing, from the left side of course. And when they wrestle on the floor, she always has to join in.

Girly, then tomboy, then girly again.

I thought I was making strides the other night when bedtime rolled around. My little princess picked up one of her dolls and walked to the couch with it gently tucked under her arm. I said to her "oh, are we going to cuddle with your baby?" Then she threw the doll down on the floor and stepped on it to get onto the couch by herself. I couldn't believe it! Not only did she not want to cuddle with her baby, but she was using it to stand on.

Of course, I couldn't help but be a little proud of her problem-solving skills, yet the girly side of me felt sorry for the baby lying on the floor, face down, used and unwanted.

As parents, I guess we just have to be patient and watch our children's personalities naturally develop over time. Girly-girl or tomboy, yet to be determined, but apparently Daddy and big brother are doing a better job convincing her than I am...

(Lauritsen from West Fargo enjoys writing, in particular, sharing her insight into parenting issues that present themselves daily in the upbringing and nurturing of her two small children.)